SPEAK TO MY HEART: WHAT’S YOUR LOVE LANGUAGE?

Amazingly the new year has taken off without skipping a beat; and Valentine’s Day, my most cherished holiday being “The Heart Lady”, came and went without much more than a faint heartbeat.  As a matter of fact my heart tank has been on “E”—and that’s not for Evelyn this time.

 Not by coincidence, I’ve been recently re-introduced to “The Five Love Languages” written by Gary Chapman who identifies the 5 Love Languages as being:

            Words of Affirmation

            Physical Touch

            Receiving Gifts

            Acts of Service

            Quality Time

Re-taking the Profile Survey I realized that during the months leading up to and throughout the holidays (in addition of a physical condition which significantly altered my daily activities), my heart communication had been pretty much mute–there being little to no communication in either of my primary love languages.  

Contributing much of the effectiveness of my work in the healing profession to the genuine and authentic empathy gained from my own personal experiences and emotional pains, I often refer to myself as a “wounded healer”.  However, it’s one thing to draw upon and share one’s wounds from past experiences but quite another to share those being experienced in the present. 

Acknowledging and healing one’s emotional wounds can be very difficult because generally when others don’t see any physical evidence of pain, they either totally miss it; ignore or dismiss it, giving simplistic and superficial advice; or just back off and avoid it waiting for you to get through or “over it”.  This is even more difficult when you’re the “go to” person for others when they are in pain and/or need.

Through my prayers and introspection I have been reminded of one of my most recent inspirations to speak on the topic of “Healing Your Heart & Following It”.  I also recall a colleague’s question after reading the manuscript of my memoir “It’s Heart Work…”  “Have you healed yet?” Wow…

A firm believer of “walking one’s talk” I recognize and embrace this most recent experience as the bridge to effectively delivering that message I’ve chosen or been chosen to share. 

Oftentimes we feel unqualified to declare any sense of authority or expertise in the areas through which we may struggle, and we back away.  However, I believe in my heart that when we receive these challenges and trials as gifts and tools with which to work, they are actually the stepping stones to following our hearts and fulfilling our purpose. 

Are you ready to follow your heart? Are there areas in which you recognize a desire and need to heal in order to move forward?  Do you trust someone who knows and walks the talk?

I’d like to offer you an opportunity to be the first to take advantage of my “Speak To My Heart” coaching series and begin healing and filling the receptive and expressive love tanks of your heart.    

If you will send me an e-mail with “Speak To My Heart” in the Subject Box to ME@TalktoMsE.com I will send you information about the outline and registration options to take part in this 8-10 week series. 

I look forward to walking along side you in learning and practicing the steps to better speak to and from the heart and follow it. 

Hearts & Blessings,

Ms. E “The Heart Lady”

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One Response to “SPEAK TO MY HEART: WHAT’S YOUR LOVE LANGUAGE?”

  1. Diane Onley Says:

    Evelyn, you’ve touched on something that so many of us suffer through in silence, and put it so well into words….”Acknowledging and healing one’s emotional wounds can be very difficult because generally when others don’t see any physical evidence of pain, they either totally miss it; ignore or dismiss it, giving simplistic and superficial advice; or just back off and avoid it waiting for you to get through or “over it”. This is even more difficult when you’re the “go to” person for others when they are in pain and/or need.”

    Anyone – including myself – living with a mental illness (in my case, Clinical Depression), or a physical illness that is not seen (as in MS, Back and Neck problems, chronic pain, etc) has experienced what you describe time after time. The stigma that comes with mental illness prevents a lot of people from sharing what they’re going through for fear of being labeled, criticized, ostracized or just plain avoided, as you’ve stated. Telling can be risky..fear of losing your job or not getting the job, for example.,

    These illnesses cause many of us to feel isolated and lonely. Most times we’re completely wrong in our feelings that “no one cares or loves us”, but we don’t know that unless we’re willing to take that risk and share. I’ve had experiences where I trusted enough to tell a friend what was going on with me, only to not hear from that friend for a very long time. I like to think that they just didn’t know how to deal with my problem, that it made them uncomfortable. I began to feel like “I can have friends as long as I don’t talk about me.”

    Thank God that I’ve come a long way from being that person, and I share my “story” with others sometimes simply because it may help someone out there suffering the same as I did. The fight against stigma in our society is being well fought.

    Hopefully those who need to “learn what their heart language is” will sign up for your classes. If they do, knowing you – although from afar – I’m sure they will come out feeling so much better…and lovable.

    Keep up the Heart-Work, Ms. Evelyn! You are and have been chosen!

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